We have spent countless hours caring for our daughters hair. First off, whatever you do before the child goes to sleep will be undone during the night. Some puck rockers would pay a lot to get a hair cut that look like my girl's head in the morning. There are some trick my wife and I have found that seem to help the everyday grooming.
1) We brush her hair 2-3 time a day flattening it with water hair spray.
2) We use special Shampoo's and conditionners (anti-frizz) . Expensive but effective.
3) We try to tie her hair as much as possible
4) We have found that pool water (Chlorine?) will REALY help her hair to become more manegable. Unpraticle for everday care unless you have a pool. We dont.
5) For people who live in winter weather 6 month a year (like us) putting a winter hat on damp hair for 20 minutes will realy flatten it for the day!
